The Key to the Kingdom

by Dr. Sherry Buffington

The kingdom referred to in the title of this post is the kingdom of the mind; the center of all passion, all motivation and every outcome.The key to that kingdom is the alignment of conscious desires and subconscious patterns.

Having studied the subconscious mind for 25 years and spent the last 23 working with people at a subconscious level, I am ever awed at its power and its willingness to provide anything its owner believes he/she needs and deserves—and it executes commands flawlessly.

The longer you hold a belief and repeat the behaviors that align with that belief, the more ingrained the belief and the actions become. At some point, they turn into habits and then into patterns.

Once a habit deepens into an ingrained pattern, it is almost impossible to change through conscious determination. At the point of habit, we are still consciously aware of our actions and usually the beliefs and attitudes that drive them. And we  can sometimes affect the habit with repeated effort. It takes a lot of determination though, and can take six weeks or longer.

The problem with trying to change habits at a conscious level is that most people don't stick with the change consistently for the duration. What most people don't understand is that, if you slip even once in that six-week period, you are back to square one—meaning you have to start all over and go six more weeks without slipping.

Recent brain research suggests—and my experiences over the years validate— that each time you lose resolve and slip back into the old behavior, it gets harder to apply the resolve and follow through on the next try. You see, the subconscious mind does not like failure. It translates failure as pain and it avoids pain. So, each time you try to change a habit and fail at it, the habit gets better protected and getting to it to change it gets harder.  

A far better approach is to go straight to the subconscious mind and change the habit instantly. You can try your hand at will-power or you can change habits, and even deeply ingrained patterns you are not consciously aware of, instantly, effortlessly and permanently with the Rapidly Accelerated Mind Patterning (RAMP) method.

I will leave you with 3 things:

  1. A poem that is more truth than poetry
  2. A quote with a bit of advice from Napoleon Hill, author of "Think and Grow Rich"
  3. The link to the Banish Blocks website where you can learn more about the subconscious mind and how wonderfully helpful it is when it is aligned with your conscious desires.



Who Am I?

I am your constant companion.—

I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.

I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.

I am completely at your command.

Half of the things you do you might as well turn over to me

I will do them – quickly and correctly.

I am easily managed, but you must be firm with me.

Show me exactly how you want something done and after a few lessons,

I will do it automatically.

I am the servant of great people, and alas, of all failures as well.

Those who are great, I have made great.

Those who are failures, I have made failures.

I am not a machine though I work with the precision of a machine

Plus the intelligence of a person.

You may run me for profit or run me for ruin. It makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet.

Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who am I? I am Habit.



In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote "The principle of habit will take hold of the faculties of your mind just the same as it will influence the physical muscles of your body.  The object in writing out and repeating a self-confidence formula is to form the habit of making belief in yourself the dominating thought of your mind until that thought has been thoroughly embedded in your subconscious mind, through the principle of habit.”




To learn more about the workings of your subconscious mind, go to